Not that I am giving the solution my self...
but to me it looks like it was bad way to mount...
I had embedded the back side of motor in foam, leaving too little a space to dissipate the heat.
I am saying so because I got a new motor of same specs, everything same accept that i made a mount out of aluminium spacers.
this time no issues everything is fine.
except that model still doesnt fly
(looking into the issues one by one).